Welcome to the Spark. Short regular blogs with musings, experiences, tips, links or general knowledge to help #IgniteYourSpark.
The Spark is a regular journal, so to speak, from the world of SparkHub. We will bring to you in-house and guest blogs that cover a wide range of topics, tips, tricks, daily experiences or just a thought-provoking idea to help #IgniteYourSpark.
Today’s Spark is brought to you by SparkHub founder and chief igniter, Sara.
Can you have a meaningful and committed relationship if your own self worth is…a little funky? Yes, I’m living proof.
Can you find happiness in life and connection to others if you’re finding it tricky to like yourself? Yes, I’m living proof.
Can you have moments of pure, unadulterated joy if practicing self love has dropped to the bottom of your to-do list? Yes, I’m living proof.
Can you find a sustainable, long-lasting sense of peace and calm if you struggle to face your own reflection (not just the one in the mirror) every morning? In my own living proof, no.
There’s a lot out there in the world of self-help, self-development, self-call-it-what-you-will about how you’ll never find true happiness until you learn to fully love yourself. I call bullshit. And I’m a self-confessed self-development junkie. I’ve experienced many moments of pure joy, excitement, thrill, happiness, ecstasy and love – for others and myself – throughout my life. Yet, truly sustained self-love is a feeling that still sort of evades me.
Throughout my journey of self and professional help I’ve worked on many issues; anxiety, phobias, child of divorce, relationship communication etc. But it’s only over the last year that I’ve realised the root cause of most of the above stems from a fundamental…avoidance of self-love. Whether I was just never taught how (don’t get me wrong I come from a loving family) or I thought it was a dirty concept, it’s probably been my biggest challenge to date. But I am working on it. Micro-step by micro-step, I’m embarking on the most important development of my self.
I have a very happy life. A committed marriage, beautiful daughter, work I love. In reality, in a 1st world country with every amenity I could ever need at my fingertips, I want for nothing. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you cannot find happiness or love before falling madly in love with yourself. But do listen to this; if you’ve been struggling with the concept of loving yourself, a deep and abiding sense of peace as an undercurrent to your existence could be what awaits us around the corner of this journey.
With love, for all.